There are times when you can be talking to someone and trying to communicate a thought, an idea or share your heart with them and they can totally miss it, miss you if they do not operate on the same wavelength. It is especially frustrating if this happens with family members and people who are the closest to us. We normally refer this phenomena as two people 'growing apart'. It's interesting how that works, doesn't it?
One of the ways we can connect is to be present in the moment when we are talking to someone. I mean COMPLETELY present! One of my friends pointed that out to me recently and I have not been able to fully shake it off, constantly evaluating whether I am actually practicing being 'present'. I realised that one of my weakness (on that long list of things that I need to work on) is the fact that when I am talking, instead of being completely in the 'listening mode' I am already preparing what I will say next even before the person completed their thought. To be present means to be a good listener, and to be a good listener means to actually care about and try to grasp everything that the other person is saying without judgement, without preconceived personal agendas...just listen and be present. It also means getting off that phone, turing the thing off and not allowing it to interrupt the moment of that face-to-face connection. So close, yet so far...
There are many levels at which we can connect even through one simple conversation. Sometimes you can meet someone and within moments the two of you pick up the same frequency that is only detected by the two of you. This does not even have to be a romantic connection, just a meaningful human connection of two persons who connect on the same levelled ground of understanding mentally and spiritually. Connectedness means oneness and something in us compels us to seek it out and desire it more than anything else. No matter how many connections we make, if they are not meaningful we will not stay connected and move on.
It is amazing the way two people can communicate and find themselves on one wavelength. One of my friends recently drew a comparison of one person sending a specific vibration and another one picking up that vibration, like a frequency of one station. Somehow these moments of deep and meaningful connections are so rare. We can communicate with the same people over and over, we can spend time with them and still be completely disconnected. So many people are disconnected and when we feel disconnected we feel alone, neglected and misunderstood. However, when we experience that meaningful connection to another, we feel fulfilled and more complete. That is not to say that we must depend on human connections alone in order to be fulfilled, but it is true that when we have that type of friendship or relationship where we truly connect it really adds to our lives.
We all seek meaningful connections, one way or another. Many times we do not know what we are looking for and that is because we do not understand our own frequency on which we communicate. It is much easier to tune into 100Jamz when we know to turn to 100.3 on the dial. Same goes for connecting with people - we need to first understand our own frequency.
What make a connection meaningful is when we ourselves first come undone to our most authentic self, knowing who that 'True Me' is. Then, when we encounter another authentic 'True Self' we find that we are able to connect in an authentic way, creating a meaningful connection without the static of false pretences nor fear. A connection like that creates a feeling of safety and freedom. Sadly, in our world and the culture of today this is a very counter-intuitive occurrence. We really do not know how to be fully present because we do not spend time with ourselves alone, without our gadgets...
I can hear the passion in Jesus' voice as He lifts up His prayer to the Father in John 17:21: "I pray that they will all be one, just as You and I are One - as You are in Me, Father, and I am in You..."
Jesus, knowing what it really feels like to have that kind of connection, really desired that we too would experience that kind of connection, with our Father and with one another. He really wanted us to know that connection, the same connection for which He died to restore between us and the Father. The kind of connection He made available to Himself and the Father, that we get to share in His glory! It is only through our connection with Him that we would be able to truly connect with one another:
"I have given them the glory You gave Me, so they may be one as We are One. I am in them and you are in Me. May they experience such perfect unity that the world will know that You sent Me and that You love them as much as You love Me. Father, I want these whom You have given Me to be with Me where I Am. Then they can see all the glory You gave Me because You loved Me even before the world began." (John 17:22-24)
It is in our spiritual DNA to desire that connection and it is impossible to experience it unless we have Christ in us. That is why the kind of connections that two people experience when they are truly in Christ is that of pure Oneness! No other connection will suffice. It is also the reason why it may seem like we are not of this world because it is hard to connect to anything this world has to offer. Yet, when we do experience these types of connections we understand how deep and how wide love really goes...