Thursday, September 18, 2014

Love vs. Grief

"We love as deeply as we grieve and we grieve as deeply as we love".

I have been hearing this all week!
The interesting thing, no one wants to grieve, but when we do grieve it lets us know that we are capable of deep love. Have you been so hurt that in the moments when you are alone you cry because you grieve loss of a relationship or a loved one? Grieving a relationship, a marriage is as bad as loosing someone to death, except the corps is still walking around reminding you of that 'death'" - a quote I heard tonight from someone...

According to the opening quote, the 'good' news is that you are capable of deep love. The important thing is to make sure you give that love to someone who is worthy of it and who can appreciate who you are. In order for that to happen, make sure you know who you are and appreciate who you are first. Otherwise, you will let anyone walk into your life and not know how to guard your heart from the way they choose to treat you. 

This human experience sometimes makes me think that we are not even trying to learn how to be with one another. The longer I live the more I see how rare it is to find people who really are intentional about self respect, self growth, self investment and self discovery. That is when we have love and respect and are able to invest in others. None of this is possible without aligning oneself with the One who created each one of us. There is a beautiful quote that I discovered this week that I really believe applies here and if only we were all committed to grow in that one area, I really believe the world would be a better place...Here is the quote:

"It's not about the mirror, it's about the One we're trying to mirror"

The One who created us is the only one the knows who we really are. We can read books or do all the therapy we want...but until we consult with the One who made us, we will be lost and it will be challenging for us to know how to operate this thing we call life. In relationships, the ones that are actually successful are the people who recognise that and strive to continuously know who they are, lining up to the will and purpose of the One who created them. That is when both persons find themselves on the same page and are able to work together, making a relationship successful.

Doesn't it seem strange to you that we all want to have someone to call our 'other half' yet the majority of us are all struggling in this area? We write songs and books about it and how to be good at it, we even go to therapy in hopes that we will be better prepared to be successful in this area, yet we are so stubborn to admit we want this? It's ok to want to be with someone, it is not good for a man to be alone...but somehow this has become so counter-intuitive and we are too proud to be vulnerable...on top of that, we as a society have completely forgotten what it means and what it looks like. This evening was tough in many respects, but it made me think a lot...

...and for that I am thankful

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