Thursday, June 5, 2014

It's never too walk away

Downtown Disney! WOW! It was so much fun :) and the reason why it was so much fun, I realised, was because I felt free - stress free!

I realised that living a life with someone in it who tries to steal your joy and your sense of freedom is so deadly for your soul and spirit. The only way we should allow someone into our life is if that person propels you into freedom and helps you realise your full potential, who encourages and inspires you to be the best person you can be.

Most people, because they are themselves broken and emotionally unhealthy and/or spiritually immature, will put you an a box of their expectations, whether good or bad. It is a form of selfishness because they only see their own desires, seek their own goals and understand the world only through their own pain and insecurities. It's still all about them. They are not interested in your dreams and they are not concerned with your story, your journey, your growth. It's as if you constantly have to fight to defend yourself with them, constantly having to stand your ground and re-establish boundaries, always on the look out because you are unsure if they will look out for YOUR best interest. There is no freedom, no trust...there is no love in a relationship where you constantly have to prove who you are. If only they paid attention and opened their eyes and took a genuine interest in you - they would see you and there would be no need for explanations.

These are the unhealthy people, who are more concerned with self-gratification than your success. They will pretend to care because it's in THEIR best interest, as long as it serves them and they are getting something out of the deal. They are good, really good. They possess a gift of manipulation and it's hard to see them coming. The problem for so many of us is that we fall for it and by the time we see the true colours we are so caught up and deeply engaged and wrapped up, that we get stuck. In so many cases it is too late.

Relationships with unhealthy and unsafe people end in heartbreak and often with even worse consequences. They suck you dry and leave you empty. BEWARE! Guard your heart and never be afraid to walk away. Be courageous, count your losses and move on. Do not even look back. You deserve so much more.

Walking with Jesus and constantly tuning into the leading of the Holy Spirit is what allows me to catch myself and identify unhealthy people just at the right time.

...and for that I am thankful :)

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